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[alexandral]

+ I have got a sleeping sickness. I sleep and sleep and have naps in between and feel lazy-boned..

+ Because of sleeping during all spare time I haven’t watched/read much. I am getting through "A Feast for Crows", but very slowly – you know, I don’t mind getting old but my eyes are not as they used to be. Never mind, there are good things about getting older too..

+ I have a LJ crisis – over the last 10 month I have accumulated 3 or 4 LJ’s that I have added to my friends list and they didn’t add me back. I don’t have a problem with it at all – I mostly added these LJ’s to my friends list because there is something of interest to me in their contents, and they could not see anything in my LJ of interest to them, so this is totally cool.. The problem I just realise is that what if they would rather that I have deleted them from my friends list?? How can I know??? Even if they don’t say in their Userinfo?? I am in tortures of uncertainty?? Shall I go clean and remove them all from my friends list??

+ Veronica/Logan - O YES!!!! Kind umeedmerchant wrote in her comment that Jason Dohring is 24 years old and YES, that makes me feel better!! Only a little, the rest of my attraction to the very young Logan I put down to my inner-teen (soniag.:)

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[koalathebear.livejournal.com]

I also have sleeping sickness.

As to the friends issue. I have 73 people who have added me and I did not add them back. I don't have a problem with them adding me and wanting to read my public posts and I don't expect them to delete me just because I didn't add them. I think that most people should understand that while some journals are interactive, some are just for reading. Often when I add people I have no expectation that they will add me back, I just want to read what they have to say. I actually get more frustrated when people add me and get offended when I don't want to add them back.

I'm rambling but my theory is that if they have public content, presumably they don't mind if people add and read and unless they state in their user info that they would rather you didn't add them, then it's fine :) Just my 3 cents ;) Sorry if this makes no sense. I'm very sleepy. :)

[alexandral.livejournal.com]

Oh, it makes perfect sense - this is what I think most of the time - that if people don't state otherwise in the User info they fine with somebody adding them and if they don't add you back they sort of say "I don't think I have many common interests with you", which is fine totally. Thank you for commenting, I really wanted to know what other people think and if there is an unspoken LJ etiquette which says otherwise.

I always try and read User Info just in case, some User info are so revealing

[nutmeg3.livejournal.com]

Wakey-wakey!

I don't think you need to worry about friending those people. It seems to me that they wouldn't open themselves to friending if they felt uncomfortable with it.

[alexandral.livejournal.com]

Thank you very much! This is similar to what I think most of the time, but I wanted to ask your opinion so that I can stop worrying about it..:)

[soniag.livejournal.com]

I have got a sleeping sickness.

I know how this is. And I think it's normal since you just finished up a great mound of stressful stuff. Your body needs to recuperate.

But I also know that one summer, when everything in my life was going wrong, and I found myself sleeping all day and staring at the ceiling and obsessing all night, that I was truly depressed. I really don't think this is what is going on with you, but at the same time I do hope you will take good care of yourself.

Do I sound like an alarmist? I don't mean to.

Oh, don't get me started on the LJ friending crisis. I am an absolute nutter on this issue. I wish I wasn't this way, but I do take it personally when people don't friend me back. I panic about being a boring, worthless person. It's ridiculous. I usually wait a week, and if they don't friend me I unfriend them.

And even with my mutual friends I often find myself wondering, "does this person secretly wish that I would defriend them?" And I have moments of panic where I decide that I'm going to do a massive purge of my friend list so as to relieve people of the burden of my presence.

It's sad really. I was comforted to read your post because I have LOTS of anxiety about this.

Oh, I finally saw the VM episode you referenced in a previous comment -- the one where Veronica is in Logan's bedroom and he's wearing the too large towel. Yay! My favorite part, however, was earlier when Logan made that remark during the business club meeting ("You should have plugged her right the first time," or something to that effect), and Duncan went nuts on him. I loved the jealousy over Veronica, but I mostly admired Logan for basically saying "You abandoned me" to Duncan. For all his immature pranks, Logan is pretty in touch with his emotions, isn't he?

[alexandral.livejournal.com]

But I also know that one summer, when everything in my life was going wrong, and I found myself sleeping all day and staring at the ceiling and obsessing all night, that I was truly depressed. I really don't think this is what is going on with you, but at the same time I do hope you will take good care of yourself.

Thank you so much! I had a similar difficult period once, when all I wanted was to do was to lay down and close my eyes because then I don’t have to think about the things which are really wrong when it hurts so much to think about them. I think now I have more of the happy sleeping sickness. :):) I feel happy, but strangely, I don’t feel like doing anything, just sleeping. Because I can "afford" it now.:)

Do I sound like an alarmist? I don't mean to.

O no, I am just so thankful!!

And even with my mutual friends I often find myself wondering, "does this person secretly wish that I would defriend them?" And I have moments of panic where I decide that I'm going to do a massive purge of my friend list so as to relieve people of the burden of my presence.

You totally should not, you are LOVELY!!!! And funny, and everything. I don’t just say it “because”, I really mean it. And you made me feel so much better!!!!!

Oh, I finally saw the VM episode you referenced in a previous comment -- the one where Veronica is in Logan's bedroom and he's wearing the too large towel. Yay!

I am so sorry if I “spoiled” you; I really thought you are ahead in this. And – is it just me or Veronica tried her hardest not to look? Hee!

My favorite part, however, was earlier when Logan made that remark during the business club meeting ("You should have plugged her right the first time," or something to that effect), and Duncan went nuts on him. I loved the jealousy over Veronica, but I mostly admired Logan for basically saying "You abandoned me" to Duncan. For all his immature pranks, Logan is pretty in touch with his emotions, isn't he?

Or, he is so much in touch with his emotions that it hurts me to watch sometimes! (in a good way). I also love this place. From the start – Logan has a very quick wit, don’t you think? And then I have a thing about two men fighting over the fair lady – it is so HOT!! And yes, when Logan spoke to Duncan it was so heart-breaking, similar to the scene in the episode 1.18? when Logan/Veronica stumble onto his birthday party and Logan tells everybody "You all can go if you don’t like my girl-friend", but when Duncan goes Logan follows him and tries to apologize. Aww! My heart breaks to pieces to watch it!

[soniag.livejournal.com]

I was afraid that I sounded a bit psychotic about the friending stuff -- I'm glad I didn't scare you away!

I am so sorry if I “spoiled” you; I really thought you are ahead in this.

Never fear! You didn't spoil me! I am feeling very sorry for myself right now, however, because I'm having to go week by week in watching the re-runs of season 2. I'm sure the eps are available to download, but 1) I don't know where to get them, and 2) I'm afraid my computer will have another meltdown if I get into the habit of downloading again.

So, you'll be way ahead of me before long! But that's okay -- I'll just go back and read your responses later.

[alexandral.livejournal.com]

Never fear! You didn't spoil me! I am feeling very sorry for myself right now, however, because I'm having to go week by week in watching the re-runs of season 2

I have downloaded 2 seasons of "Veronica Mars", I must admit :). I wanted to get DVDs but they are only available in US region. I want to make some icons, but really don't know how they will turn from the avi screen caps. I am a little spoiled at the moment - I have a new shiny computer and my Broadband is fast:) I usually get DVDs too, because I always feel guilty..

I have started watching season 2 properly again - I was skipping few episodes very quickly , looking for Veronica/Logan scenes, but now I am "just enjoying it" . Logan is such a bad boy..

[sunbrae.livejournal.com]

I think if the people you friended really mind you reading their posts, they'd either email or somehow ask you to remove them. I've seen it before. So I gather they don't care if you read their public posts. :)

Hope you feel the need for less sleep soon.

[alexandral.livejournal.com]

Thank you so much for your comment! I wanted to know an opinion of you all on the matter, because I was unsure if I cross the line or something.. :)

I am going to have a nap now. I think I figured out where my sleeping comes from - I spend few month not allowing myself too much sleep and now sleep seems better then chocolate. I love sleep. :)

[kiaforrest.livejournal.com]

EEEk I hope we don't have to remove folks we read just cause they find us less than interesting ::grin::

There's several folks I read who probably never notice my LJ and haven't added me. Some add me later. Perhaps they noticed my name or something. If we're supposed to only read who knocks on our LJ door Golly, I'd never have met YOU - or gee, most everyone. I amble about and read whole journals sometimes over a couple days when I'm On Hold forevah. There are many strange folks out there but there are Way More Groovy ones.

I'd just enjoy and if someone wants you to shuffle away, they'll tell you

[alexandral.livejournal.com]

O, thank you so much, kia! You are so wise as always, I am so glad I finally brought this question up, it was on the back of my mind for a while and I finally decided to ask.

** Hugs **

[elspethsheir.livejournal.com]

I don't want to sleep, now that I'm starting to feel better! I want to be active!

Re: your LJ crisis and the friending - I feel your torment! Sometimes, even when mutual friends say something about feeling awkward about friending, I think it must be about me, even though logically, they wouldn't let me see that post if I was the person in question, but I still get all anxious for a bit! Hee. Then I remember that it's not All About Me.

I really think that if these people had a problem with being friended by you (though why would they??), they'd lock posts. If you enjoy reading their posts and they're public, I'd keep them.

[alexandral.livejournal.com]

Then I remember that it's not All About Me.

EEE! That is what I think, it is a good feeling :).

I usually think "O, I haven't done anything bad to them , I enjoy reading their posts, they will let me know if they rather I didn't, won't they?" I am so glad I talked to you guys, my LJ crisis quickly fizzled away :)

RE: sleep - I am so glad you are feeling better, the antibiotics can make anyone lethargic. YAY YOU!!!

[syliasyliasylia.livejournal.com]

+ I have got a sleeping sickness. I sleep and sleep and have naps in between and feel lazy-boned..
I can totally relate to that! But my antihistamine is to blame! It makes me totally drowsy! So now whenever I watch a dvd and end up nodding off on the couch and missing the whole movie/episode! Waaaah! I even nodded off while watching Kobol's Last Gleaming the other day...

About the LJ crisis, I thing most people have already answer. I don't friend everyone who friend me uless we share interested and I find them interesting... equally, I don't feel offended if someone I have friended does not friend me back :D

Veronica/Logan EEEEEEE! They are so Epic, and Jason Dohring and Kristen Bell are so believable in the portrayal of their characters!! She is so fabulous! I loved her since I saw her incredible performance in a couple of Deadwood episodes, a character quite different from Veronica.

[alexandral.livejournal.com]

I even nodded off while watching Kobol's Last Gleaming the other day... Hee! I am not this bad yet.. My problem with watching too much of something charged as KLG is that I can't sleep afterwards. I remember, when I had season 1 BSG DVDs for the first time I had a bad case of insomnia..:)

My views on LJ is very similar to yours, I guess I just needed to get this last question out of my system ,SORRY!

Veronica/Logan - EPIC!! I like Logan so much because he is so good with words - HEE! "Bloodshed, continent.." I can fully appreciate everybody's feelings after 2.20. Yes, it was epic!!

[queenofthorns.livejournal.com]

Darling, I hope my post from yesterday didn’t precipitate any kind of friending/not-friending anxiety... There’s only ONE person ever in the history of my LJ whom I just wished would not even have me on her friends’ list, and I’ve had this journal for nearly four years, so I should just say that I was very, very, very sorely tried and that is the reason I wanted her to just please go away... but I cannot imagine that anyone would feel that way about you!

As for not friending people back, well, obviously I have you friended, but when people friend me, I go to their journals and read some of their entries for a while and I try to feel out whether we have more than just one single interest in common – as you know, I kind of flit from interest to interest, and nearly all my fandom posts are pretty public anyway, so I don’t like to friend people based on a passing interest in something-or-other only to deal with the potential drama of unfriending, because some people take it very personally... I dunno – I suppose there’s no really nice way to deal with it at all, right? Heh!

[alexandral.livejournal.com]

I hope my post from yesterday didn’t precipitate any kind of friending/not-friending anxiety...

O, totally no! I was thinking about this for a while – I have 3 or so people on my friends list whose entries I like to read from time to time, but who didn’t add me. I am totally cool with this, but I was forever wondering if there is unspoken LJ code not to do this kind of thing. I am feeling much better now because everybody thinks it is fine. I am used to my friends list page now, it is my daily reading.. :)

As for not friending people back, well, obviously I have you friended, but when people friend me, I go to their journals and read some of their entries for a while and I try to feel out whether we have more than just one single interest in common

I do this too, though I usually add everybody back :). Then I had a spurt when I deleted few people from the friends list, mostly because we never spoke a word to each other, and yes - I felt guilty about it :)

Thank you so much!

[endlessdeep.livejournal.com]

I know how you feel about the lazy. I feel the same way sometimes.

I don't think it's necessary to friend those people back. When someone friends me I don't always friend them back. I go look at their journal. If they don't write in it, or write in another language, or if they don't have any of the same interests as me I don't friend them back.

Sometimes I friend people because they write interesting posts. And they don't necessarily have the same interests as me even. And I don't feel bad if they don't friend me back.

Actually I rarely look at my friends list. Every once in a while I will look at it and realize there are some new people there.

I think I would be hurt if someone I like unfriended me. But I don't think I would say anything.

I'm babbling now. :)

[alexandral.livejournal.com]

Thank you so much! After everybody's comments I fell that I am not "crossing the line" anywhere. YAY!

Sometimes I friend people because they write interesting posts. And they don't necessarily have the same interests as me even. And I don't feel bad if they don't friend me back.

I am totally the same!

I think I would be hurt if someone I like unfriended me. But I don't think I would say anything.

Again, I am the same - I probably will be hurt, but will try not to take it "too close to my heart" and will move on..