I feel like it is folly too but its such a part of their tradition that its so hard to change. I agree with what you think he is saying the oaths are just to much. It's like Jaime says to Cat in CoK, whatever you do, you are forsaking one vow or the other. I really can't wait to see what happens with.this theme in the rest of the series. I feel like there is potential for there to be a major cultural change in Westeros.