Fandom

[alexandral]

I was thinking a lot today and yesterday and decided to make clear my own position on some things, mainly because at some point I did join with the fandom crowd in laughing (only indirectly and nobody probably knew, but I still did) in the latest Fandom Scandal:

Even if I find somebody’s position and actions wrong I really really dislike bad talking and mocking behind this person’s back. Even if this first person is wrong. I dislike it much more then first person’s wrong actions and positions. I am more then fine with disagreements and even arguments, and even if people say not only nice things to each other.. But mocking the others not in their presence – IS WRONG in my book..

Because of it I do apologise for having an un-intentional laugh to the person involved in the latest Fandom Scandal.

(And it is definitely JUST ME!!!!!)

Comments

[koalathebear.livejournal.com]

You're one of the kindest people I know dear. I don't think you ever need apologise. Having a grin is just natural sometimes ..... :) There's a bit of a difference between finding something funny and actively taking part in attacking people!!!! *hug* You make me smile, you know that? :)

[shadowserenity.livejournal.com]

I know what you mean. Seeing this sort of drama makes me want to retreat back into my safe place. I vowed to leave this stuff behind in the Star Wars fandom (I was a real gossiper and I made sure I knew most things that were happening on the messageboard I visited). Sure I've thought about posting a little rant somedays, but... it would just make me feel horrible. And if I mock people, then I think it becomes a case of what goes around comes around, in that I'm asking to be mocked.

Hon, I think you're a good person that would never seek to hurt anyone *hug*.

[syliasyliasylia.livejournal.com]

*hugs you* You are a really sweet and good person :) and I totally concur with koalathebear just said above. Having a laugh and finding the fandom drama amusing is totally different from taking part in attacking and bitching. But mayby that's just me, I'm totally non-confrontational in real life and easygoing. *hugs you again*

[queenofthorns.livejournal.com]

You are, of course, quite right! I'm afraid I have a very deep mocking streak and when people are self-righteous and self-important, it just is very hard for me to suppress that - I never know whether to lock my posts (thus sparing the whole thing from spiralling out of control entirely) or be really open about it and to it in public. Sigh!

However, you are all grown up and mature and stuff and it's great!

[kiaforrest.livejournal.com]

Most of us slow down when we see a wreck. We rubber neck in one way or another. We may even try and guess what happened.

Yesterday, all four fire trucks roared out of the station, but I could tell from the sound of the sirens they didn't go far. I was tempted - So tempted - to walk to the end of the block and See more than just the black smoke belching from a not so distant structure. Instead, I prayed, like I do each time they roll out: for the firemen, the ones they are assisting & went back to work because that's the Best I have to offer. Anything else would just be getting in the way or being a Gawker at some one else's tragedy. ::shudder::

When I see the Fuss evolving on LJ - I've forced myself to stay away. When fic is mocked or a post / poster ground into the dirt - I pray and try and find something that is Good and Thoughtful on LJ to contribute to or ponder on - like your posts. Otherwise, I become what makes me ill.

[winterspel.livejournal.com]

I know I'm really late with this, but I'm trying hard to catch up on LJ...as I'm sure you guessed, I agree with you 100%. Life is too short to get caught up in some of the kerfuffles on LJ - better to stay away and as Kia and Koala have both said at various times - let's see how we can make our corner of the world a little nicer rather than tear others down. At least that is definitely where I channel my energies. :) You are a very thoughtful and sweet person, my dear - you shouldn't apologize for saying any of this at all!