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koalathebear said made me thinking about LJ, friends in real and “fanthom” life and all such things
I found LJ this summer during crazy “Battlestar Galactica” obsession period, when I was reading all Kara/Lee fan fiction I could put my hands on. My first reaction was – these people are mad writing long posts about their life and reviewing TV shows and commenting on other people’s life and so on so forth (forgive me, I never had any history of forums before) . But then, after awhile, I found that some people’s ideas are fascinating to me, that I want to talk to these people. So I joined LJ, and I love it indeed. I also would love to meet my LJ friends in the “real life”, but nobody seems live in England yet.
LJ friends are not less real to me then my RL friends (though with different kind of reality, and Internet is a REALITY of our time). There is some quality of sincerity about LJ. In a way I like the fact that I don’t really know what facial features/bodily parameters my LJ friends have. ;) This is an ideal situation – people on LJ like/dislike us by what we say and think, not how we look, smell or how rich or poor we are.
As to adding/removing from the friends list, I will not be unreasonably upset if somebody deletes me from their friends list (unless these are people with whom we talk together more, then of course I need to know why). If somebody doesn’t find my writings interesting – o well, this is life.. They have their human rights. ;)
About bitching – this is what I find REALLY unforgivable in any life – real or LJ. If you think something unflattering about a person and really-really want to voice it – go and tell it to this person’s face, otherwise keep your thoughts to yourself. I am sorry, but I think this is important. I can’t say that I never slip into bitchiness, but this is one of the things that makes me ashamed of myself if I do.
koalathebear said made me thinking about LJ, friends in real and “fanthom” life and all such thingsI found LJ this summer during crazy “Battlestar Galactica” obsession period, when I was reading all Kara/Lee fan fiction I could put my hands on. My first reaction was – these people are mad writing long posts about their life and reviewing TV shows and commenting on other people’s life and so on so forth (forgive me, I never had any history of forums before) . But then, after awhile, I found that some people’s ideas are fascinating to me, that I want to talk to these people. So I joined LJ, and I love it indeed. I also would love to meet my LJ friends in the “real life”, but nobody seems live in England yet.
LJ friends are not less real to me then my RL friends (though with different kind of reality, and Internet is a REALITY of our time). There is some quality of sincerity about LJ. In a way I like the fact that I don’t really know what facial features/bodily parameters my LJ friends have. ;) This is an ideal situation – people on LJ like/dislike us by what we say and think, not how we look, smell or how rich or poor we are.
As to adding/removing from the friends list, I will not be unreasonably upset if somebody deletes me from their friends list (unless these are people with whom we talk together more, then of course I need to know why). If somebody doesn’t find my writings interesting – o well, this is life.. They have their human rights. ;)
About bitching – this is what I find REALLY unforgivable in any life – real or LJ. If you think something unflattering about a person and really-really want to voice it – go and tell it to this person’s face, otherwise keep your thoughts to yourself. I am sorry, but I think this is important. I can’t say that I never slip into bitchiness, but this is one of the things that makes me ashamed of myself if I do.
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Date: 2005-11-24 04:28 pm (UTC)I agree. For me there's a difference between the people whose journals I just read or read my journals and the people with whom I 'interact' - we comment regularly and have a connection. Those people become much more 'real' to me and more than just a journal or a set of words. You for instance are very real to me :)
As to bitchiness. Sigh. I don't there's any excuse for it. Yeah sometimes we don't like other people's fics or the way they write or we think it's stupid but I just think - "how would I feel if I read a post like that about ME?"
Anyway I'm glad I met Good People like you on LJ. It makes it all worthwhile :)
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Date: 2005-11-24 07:53 pm (UTC)I just think - "how would I feel if I read a post like that about ME?"
This is what i always think as well. When i was younger (a teenager, i think) i didn't have that protective ability to wear a mask of "normal" person yet and had some instances of somebody not being nice to me (not too much, just to help me develop). I always remember how i felt and if i meet a person about whom everybody saying "or, they are this and that", it makes me think - "they are not hurting everybody, they are just different. I REMEMBER how that feels" Sometimes i try to over-compensate and be particular nice to this person.